LONG enough to have a baby. 9 months. 9 months ago today our Daddy had a bad accident at work. Our lives have changed a lot. We didn't even get a baby out of 9 months instead we got Dad, which is a good thing. Changes can be good but they can be hard also. Hard is hard, not easy.
Our house has seen lots of weird furniture in 9 months. A hospital bed, walker, shower chair, potty, cooling machine and now a mechanical Frankenstein chair that moves dads arm. Weirdo stuff. Oh yeah, we have a back brace and arm sling upstairs in the junk room now. We hope no one ever needs it again.
Somedays are blue colored for our dad. He loves to fish and visit the woods, that has stopped. He can watch the grandpeeps fishing but watching is just that.........watching. No driving ALLOWED. That's pretty hard for Dad, imagine your life not behind the wheel for a long time. I asked Dad if I could drive him around, but he said no.
Some of Dad's bones are healed as good as they will ever be in his spine, good is not BEST, it is just good.
Dad goes to PT 5 days a week now.......when he comes home he is grouchy and in pain, later he watches the +4 and he laughs. Laughing is good.
Sometimes it is hard for us to not jump up on Dad cos we are so excited about seeing him, its hard to learn the new rules at our house, even for smart pugs, and a smart mom. Hard not easy.
Mom did not know caregiving was so hard. She admires anyone who has taken care of loved ones, in much worse situations then herself. It does take a toll though. Feelings start to creep into your life and you don't even realize it until you let them in. Sadness, depression, anger..........tiredness. Even to tired to type our blog. To tired to think. Emotions bounce around like a little cat ball..........
This week mom and I are hitting the road, we think it will be the best medicine in the world. Expect her to cry and hug on you. Blogville has been her savings grace.
So when she gets back, rested up, 9 months will be behind Dad and her. Its all gravy after this.....we will get to back to blogging and laughing ..................we will be back ...........the three little pugs, wienie and +4.
I am so glad you are still so positive! Way to go! Can't wait to get there Thursday!
ReplyDeleteOh how we wish we could be there - we would love to be hugged on by you. Have a wonderful time at BAR, we are sure there will be much laughter and much tears also.
ReplyDeleteLeave worry at home and let your soul be refreshed by the pawsome friends you will meet!
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Mr Bailey, Hazel, Mabel, Angel Greta & Mom
It is hard to believe it's already been nine months-it has flown by for all of us, but not for your mom! Praying your dad fully recovers soon! I hope you have a wonderful trip and make lots of good memories and rest a lot. It is hard work being a caregiver.
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Noreen
We know how tough it's been on all of you and we admire your strength. Take a break and relax. Well be here for you when you come back. *Ear licks* noodle
ReplyDeleteI admire all of you AND ESPECIALLY your Mom. Being the primary caregiver is very very hard and wears you down physically and emotionally. I know, I have been there as I was the one taking care of my mom when she fought (and lost) her battle with cancer. Actually, I have been on both sides of the equation as I smashed my foot in a freak accident and was laid up for MONTHS. Not 9 months but MONTHS. That was hard. I felt bad for me and bad for my sister who was caring for me. That put me in a perpetually bad mood which made me sad. And that sadness permeated EVERYTHING. It took a long long time to heal and in some ways I am still not healed. My foot will never be 100%. I had to give up running and ballet, two of my favorite activities. Swimming sometimes hurts and yoga is even harder but I still do them. I have to do something. My weight, which was managed, is hard to keep down because you can only starve yourself just so much and then you gotta add in exercise. That brings back the frustration and sometimes the sadness. So I do know what you and Butch are going through and I so wish I could make it go away. I agree, though. . . BAR is going to make a BIG difference in your ability to bear the changes.
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We just know that your mom is going to have the bestest time ever at the BAR and we can't wait to hear all about it!
ReplyDeleteTotally looking forward to sharing laughter and tears together in Indiana. See you very soon!
ReplyDeleteWe wish that that accident had not happened... butt it has made some GOOD thingys happen too. Like.. your peeps finding out that they are not STRONGER and BETTER than before.
ReplyDeleteOMD We will be so happy to see you at BAR in just a few more sleeps.
Oh we know the feeling so well. Enjoy your "vacation" because it's probably the best medicine in the world. Of course your family still has our continued prayers...
ReplyDeletePawHugs!
You pups, and your Mom, have done a great job with your Dad. We know it has been hard and frustrating work. We tip our tails to you
ReplyDeleteDang it, I hate that I'm going to miss your mom's hugs.
ReplyDeleteAroo to you,
Sully
We know they say that God never gives us more than we can handle, but we sure wish you didn't have quite so much to bear. Caring for someone who is in pain and who can't do the things they love to do and used to be able to do is not easy. Time away with good friends is just what you need. We hope your trip brings you peace and comfort and lots of laughter. Safe travels. Mom wishes she could be there to give you one gigantic hug.
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Aw I'm so excited for you to meet everyone!
ReplyDeleteCrikey ...... hard is BAD, aye?? BUT your Mom is the best so it will all be good again one day. Just keep laughing. That is the best good in the whole world. Other than icecream of course. AND ..... don't hit that road too hard, aye?? Enjoy every minute of the meetup with everyone and hug and cry on some of 'em for me too, aye?? AND when you get back you just might find it's not as hard as it was before. I sure hope so.
ReplyDeleteI bet fishing could eventually be part of PT! Glad your Dad is home and getting better.:)
ReplyDeleteAlso super glad your Mom is able to go the the blogville retreat, wish we were closer & could go!
Hope it's a great time!
Don't worry, we'll cry too and we can't wait. Tomorrow we drive through Iowa and we will beep and wave!
ReplyDeleteYour Pals,
Murphy and Stanley
Have fun at the BAR,,, ans yes, leave your troubles behind.
ReplyDeleteYes,, laugh somemore,,, and hug,, hug hug everyone. Your so lucky to get to go!
Stuff just takes time.. We all get new normals sometimes. Dad will recoop and be strong again.
love
tweedles
I hope with you that the arm sling and the brace can stay in the junk room furever. All our paws are crossed for your dad and we hope that he can go fishing again.... it is superhard to face that suddenly nothing is like before....
ReplyDeleteI wish you a good time on the road and many happy moments at BAR
We will give your momma BIG boxer kisses at the BAR!! We're so impressed with all she's done over the past 9 months.
ReplyDeleteit must be very hard! its going to be great when he feels better
ReplyDeleteOh dear me...9 months from He&& for sure for you all.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad you are on this side of it though.
Tell your mom to drive safely and my peeps are looking forward to seeing her soon
Hugs madi your bfff
Our ghostwriter takes care of lots of people like your Dad, and she says it's NOT easy. She says to just hang in there. Things will seem like they'll never get better. But all of a sudden they will and you'll wonder where the time goes. We hope Mom is taking some time for herself and isn't getting all burned out.
ReplyDeleteguys....we know it's been a roller coaster for your mom N dad; we ask God to give them both mental, physical, emotional & spiritual strength..... & two see them thru this....
ReplyDeletesafe travelz two yur mom; ther ...home...& everee wear in bee tween... & we hope her haza AWESUM time ♥♥♥
We saw your comment on our blog and you are very welcomed...Mom will actually delivered a hug in person later this week.
ReplyDeleteHugs madi your bfff
It has been a tough nine months for EVERYONE! We can understand all the grumpiness. A short holiday away from each other, one with all the caring Blogvillians, will hopefully help refresh frayed nerves and restore batteries. Have a WONDERFUL trip.
ReplyDeleteI've had to be the caretaker for the hubs after surgeries - but that was only for a few days and I was ready for a vacation! Nine months is a long while. I don't know what BAR is but it sounds like it = vacation, so enjoy your time away and relax! Hopefully things will be better when you get back. Hang in there!
ReplyDeleteOur mom wishes she could be at the BAR to give your mom a big hug. We hope she has a really good time and it helps to renew her spirit. We know it hasn't been easy for either your mom or your dad during this trying time. We are keeping our paws crossed for your family.
ReplyDeleteYou are right, a trip to the BAR is just what the doctor ordered for you all. Some time to relax, to laugh and some new scenery. Enjoy every moment. We hope your dad continues to heal and gets to do things he enjoys again.
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