Tuesday, April 1, 2014
Today I am doing two posts. First I wanted to tell you thank you for all your positive comments and support. I had a long talk with myself and as I told a friend yesterday if I can raise three teenage daughters all at the same time (and one bathroom) I can raise three pugs all at the same time. I just have to get a grip and be the parent. Last night I worked hard on not letting them be in charge.
I was working on my granddaughters blanket and I let Stella lay beside me on the couch but Maggie and Gussie had to lay in the chair. My plan is to make Maggie understand STella is the dominant female BUT I am the one and only, in charge. Gussie was pretty mad about not being able to do what he wanted. He kept jumping up on the couch and I kept putting him down and telling him No...finally he realized Mom was talking!! Once I was done with the blanket and everything was cleared away, I let them come up but only after they SIT like I asked them to do. I will not be offended if you let me know I am doing something wrong.
I think most of the problem is my fault and how I have always babied them. It has always been a little battle in my heart but it sure has created some issues. I agree with all of you about not sending one of the girls to live elsewhere. That was never anything that I would have done. The problem had not gotten to the point of that extreme. I think the trainer was just telling me that was always an option. I explained to her it was not. I know we all have to unlearn some behaviors. It will be just fine.
If you run across an article or someone you know who has went through similar things I would welcome any information. I will let you all know how it is going, cos families need each other, and I will always consider you all my family.